Heartbreak manifests itself in our lives
In a variety of ways, shapes and forms
Whether it be through the loss of a loved one
The hardships and struggles of life
The pain of rejection

Failing to achieve a goal
Experiencing regret towards past mistakes
Or when we drift apart and away from
Those whom we care about.
It is an inevitable experience
Something that many of us have personally faced
Or that has touched our lives in some way.
In the words of Queen Elizabeth
“Grief is the price we pay for love”
Which is true not only of the deceased
But also of the living
Whom we have grown apart from.
Grieving a lost relationship or experience
Is a natural process
As breaking apart from those we love
Or letting go of a previous goal, dream
Or someone we once deeply cared about
Can be tough and painful
And feel at times
Uncomfortable and unnatural.
However, this grief doesn’t have to last forever
Or define who we are
And how we feel about ourselves
But it can also serve as a major catalyst
For personal growth and transformation
Empowering us to become better, wiser, stronger
More experienced, caring
Compassionate and loving people.
Allowing us to reach a place of understanding
That there are many other people
Who are capable of loving, caring for and valuing us
That one person’s lack of love
Or incompatibility with you
Does not mean you are unworthy
Of wonderful, loving relationships in the future
One previous mistake does not define you
Your past self
Does not equal your current or future self
And someone else’s words, thoughts or actions
May be shaped and informed by you
But are ultimately a reflection of them, not you.
Breakups don't have to leave you feeling broken
But rather, they can act
As a major catalyst for change
For renewal, new beginnings
Self-improvement & self-development
And to sojourn the areas of your life
That may have been left previously untouched
Undiscovered & unexplored.
They may serve as an opportunity
For you to focus on yourself
To explore your goals, dreams & personality
And to venture into the realm
Of your inner identity.
And for heartbreak caused by people
There will come a time
When you hear their name
And it will no longer hurt
Or be associated with sadness
But instead
You will smile
And wish them well.
Because you will reach a place
Of understanding
That you haven’t truly “lost” the relationship
As it will be forever a part of your story.
As when one door closes
Many more open
Paving the way for many more
Beautiful moments
Special times
And meaningful connections.
And though it can often take
A lot of time passing
Planned thought, focus and energy
And a shift in mindset
To overcome heartbreak
It is possible to find hope, beauty and meaning in life again
And to discover a renewed sense of purpose and joy for living
As heartbreak is only a single chapter of your life
And it does not define you.
T.H.